We need to stop asking when the wave of allegations will stop, and instead, we need to ask how it all began.
Religious extremists tend to believe that if you teach abstinence — and only abstinence, without any comprehensive understanding of sexuality, diseases, safety, etc. — then teens will, in turn, not have sex. Turns out, they’re wrong. And there’s proof.
The alphabet soup that is the LGBQTIA+ acronym is confusing and unwieldy. But the bottom line is this: Each letter has a specific meaning. And each meaning is important.
After reading Part 1, you've decided that you're going to do it. You're going to talk with your kids about sex. You've accepted that they are good people, that their natural inclination is to do good and not harm to others, so you already know this is going to be a conversation, not a sermon. A process, not an event. A teaching of how to think, not what to think.
Most of us parents feel waaay awkward talking to our children about sex because we have no idea what we're doing. Note: the kids are noticeably creeped out too.
Here are a few no-fail answers to get you and your kids started. Getting the party started: First, ask yourself as a parent if you believe your children are good people who want good for others. Most of us believe in our children so an emphatic "Yes!" means that we really need to focus on a conversation rather than a lesson or, worse yet, a sermon.
Just as in the story from Greek mythology where just looking at Medusa's head could have dire consequences--turning one into stone--so too might looking into the classic Greed stories themselves. So say some of the highly sensitive.
From the NY Times:
We plant trees for our grandchildren, the old saying goes. The idea here is a selfless act that prudently provides for a future we may never live to see. Parents who have baby boys have a similar challenge with a health issue that also requires us to consider a future we may never live to see but that can dramatically affect a boy's life in the future. As reported by Men's Journal:
You can no longer regularly read Dear Abby without finding a sexual issue--and those sexual issues are increasingly the subject of her advice. But sexuality is also making its way regularly to the actual news sections of newspapers and online news mediums. Consider this recent column from the New York Times:
For the last few years Sexual Futurist has helped make possible a discussion about human sexuality that could be based on reason and knowledge. Our most recent effort is a book--the type of book that has never been available before. Using everyday language with no vulgarity, no scientific terms for anatomy (no discussion of anatomy whatsoever!), and no religious tie-ins we examine the notion of "sexual needs" in the same manner one might take a look at intellectual needs, emotional needs or any other kind of human need. The book is a celebration of human diversity and human unity: we may
Funny thing about sexuality--it can be very funny. You may have realized this in your house of worship--those guys understand the need to cut up about things that are awkward to discuss. Or perhaps you experienced sexual humor in a sex education class in school--easier to learn when we can all relax. Or in your family conversations that involved Aunt Edna (a former missionary), Grandpa Lester (fresh out of a 20-year prison stretch) or after the sour look Mom gave Dad when some familial black sheep pipped up with a lighthearted "Ever hear the one about the preacher (or rabbi or imam) who