Using your words and asking for explicit consent — to hold someone’s hand, for a hug, if you’d like to call a colleague after hours and chat about non-work stuff — is the surest, easiest, safest way to ensure you’re on the same page.
In the past few months, I have routinely encountered a few of the same questions/comments about what others are rightly calling “The Reckoning.”
We need to stop asking when the wave of allegations will stop, and instead, we need to ask how it all began.
Religious extremists tend to believe that if you teach abstinence — and only abstinence, without any comprehensive understanding of sexuality, diseases, safety, etc. — then teens will, in turn, not have sex. Turns out, they’re wrong. And there’s proof.
The alphabet soup that is the LGBQTIA+ acronym is confusing and unwieldy. But the bottom line is this: Each letter has a specific meaning. And each meaning is important.
After reading Part 1, you've decided that you're going to do it. You're going to talk with your kids about sex. You've accepted that they are good people, that their natural inclination is to do good and not harm to others, so you already know this is going to be a conversation, not a sermon. A process, not an event. A teaching of how to think, not what to think.
Most of us parents feel waaay awkward talking to our children about sex because we have no idea what we're doing. Note: the kids are noticeably creeped out too.
Here are a few no-fail answers to get you and your kids started. Getting the party started: First, ask yourself as a parent if you believe your children are good people who want good for others. Most of us believe in our children so an emphatic "Yes!" means that we really need to focus on a conversation rather than a lesson or, worse yet, a sermon.