Nobody wants to be irrelevant. Not your spouse, not your kids, not even Al Queda--certainly not your neighborhood church. Hoping to sidestep irrelevancy and the inevitable decline to extinction, Pope Francis has repeatedly led believers to consider the relationship between dogma and human sexuality. For the last two weeks the Vatican has hosted a synod on "family matters," code for contraception, gays, marriage and divorce--a sexual lollapalozza of clergy rifting on humanity's bedroom activities.
Ah, the French. They are, in a word, formidable! Consider the notion of complete societal role reversals between men and women--would you like to see what that would look like? At least, would you like to see what that would look like with the same sort of gender objectification, blaming victims for sexual assault, and making adults into children? Et, voilà! Here it is. Prepare to be disturbed. But in a good way.
She's keeping track of how sexually available to him she is, and yes, she does put out enough. How does she know? She has an app for that. In Part 1 of this series we began looking at the problem of conflict over desired sexual frequency. In more than one way it's a very sensitive topic. Our reader writes:
“How does one balance the frequency of sex when the partners disagree?
"Please don't ask me to have sex again!" How could we have arrived at this impasse? After we first fell in love and then later agreed to move in together no one could have convinced us that sex would someday become waaay too much of a good thing. But this happens a lot more often than people realize. So has the
A cup of tea and a nice long talk about sex; how does that sound? In that spirit we occasionally get letters like the exceptional one quoted in this series. Our writer wants to talk to someone about this and what better group of minds than those committed to using reason and knowledge to illuminate human sexuality?
How does one balance the frequency of sex when the partners disagree?
Sexual compatibility is a concern of many in committed relationships. The problems begin when we try to fix the situation after partnering up with someone who is sexually incompatible. In our first installment of this series a young reader asked about her situation:
“How does one balance the frequency of sex when the partners disagree? ...we have sex, on average, every other day. ...I have no complaints other than I do not want it as much as he does.”
OK, so you're not comfortable talking about sex--not even with someone you are thinking might become your life partner. Problematic, yes; but there is a bit of a workaround until you get more comfortable. In Part 1 of this series we took a look at the problem of sexual incompatibility. A regular reader wanted to know how she could address sexual incompatibility in an otherwise seemingly perfect relationship. Most mental health professionals would begin a process, albeit a "therapeutic" one, of trying to get one or both people to change. But that strategy is a bit like trying to grow wi
"Just asking," is what we often say after we've offended someone and they are beyond a rational response. You'll probably have to use that phrase a lot when you start talking about sexuality and religion. I recently had the opportunity to interview Darrel Ray, the author of "Sex and God." According to his bio,
Sexual futurists include some who believe in God, many who do not and others who hold to a variety of both extremes. But whatever your position on religion it is undeniable that religion has had an enormous influence on human sexual behavior. In our continuing interview with Dr. Darrel Ray, author of "Sex and God," we examine how his own thoughts on both sexuality and religion have evolved and informed.