For those sexual futurists raised with religion and for those who value the beauty of religions' wisdom it is sometimes hard to see that absolutely empty husk of religiosity in organizations that claim to speak for God. One of the latest stories on the World's Largest and Oldest Child Sex Abuse Ring continues to make compartmentalizing sex and religion into separate spaces very difficult. Another big payout, this time in LA.
Your phone should be private but your privates should remain forever public according to Kentucky Senator and Howdy Doody impersonator Rand Paul. In his speech before hyper-conservative CPAC crowds, Kentucky Senator Paul serves up the red meat hot and spicy the way sexually repressed and repressive voters like it:
She's keeping track of how sexually available to him she is, and yes, she does put out enough. How does she know? She has an app for that. In Part 1 of this series we began looking at the problem of conflict over desired sexual frequency. In more than one way it's a very sensitive topic. Our reader writes:
“How does one balance the frequency of sex when the partners disagree?
"Please don't ask me to have sex again!" How could we have arrived at this impasse? After we first fell in love and then later agreed to move in together no one could have convinced us that sex would someday become waaay too much of a good thing. But Sexual Futurist has noticed this happens a lot more often than people realize. So has the
A cup of tea and a nice long talk about sex; how does that sound? At SF, that's what we do. In that spirit we occasionally get letters like the exceptional one quoted in this series. Our writer wants to talk to someone about this and what better group of minds than those committed to using reason and knowledge to illuminate human sexuality?
How does one balance the frequency of sex when the partners disagree?
Sexual compatibility is a concern of many in committed relationships. The problems begin when we try to fix the situation after partnering up with someone who is sexually incompatible. In our first installment of this series a young sexual futurist asked about her situation:
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120 years after the birth of sex researcher Dr. Alfred Kinsey, Americans still find the idea of simply talking about sexuality excruciatingly uncomfortable. Many colleges have organized "Sex Week" events in order to facilitate a conversation about sexuality starting with Yale in 2002. Booths, public speakers, discussion groups--kind of a grown-up approach to beginning a conversation about sexuality.
OK, so you're not comfortable talking about sex--not even with someone you are thinking might become your life partner. Problematic, yes; but there is a bit of a workaround until you get more comfortable. In Part 1 of this series we took a look at the problem of sexual incompatibility. A regular reader wanted to know how she could address sexual incompatibility in an otherwise seemingly perfect relationship. Most mental health professionals would begin a process, albeit a "therapeutic" one, of tryi