Join the conversation April 19th, 5:30 pm @ Rounds Bakery on Moana Street in Reno
Based on feedback from our mom (and dad) readers, we’ve invited marriage and family therapist Steven Ing to come talk about “the talk.” In fact, we are co-hosting this event with Reno Dads Blog, because we think it's important that both moms and dads participate in these conversations with children.
Rounds Bakery is the venue (they even have beer and wine!), and Ing is promising to lay the groundwork for a healthy, non-scary, non-threatening talk with your kids. He’ll talk about what’s appropriate at different stages, about how to naturally introduce topics, and about how we can work to provide our children with an intelligent perspective on human sexuality.
This event has limited seating, so RSVP to hold your spot!
- You are the right person for this job! This is going to be fun (I promise), and it will help your kids in so many practical ways.
- “The Talk” is actually many talks; it’s a process, not a one-time event!
- Your goal: to equip your children for a lifetime of critical thinking by showing them how to think, not what to think.
- Use media to start the conversation. Strive to do this about once a week. Find a story about some aspect of sexuality, then say, “Would you listen to this?” Read the story aloud. When finished, lean back and ask aloud, “Now, what do you think about that?”
- If your children go silent and don’t respond, no worries: Little bunnies have big ears. They are listening and learning a number of big lessons like “it’s safe to talk to my parents about sexuality,” “sexuality is more than just sex,” and so on. So smile and carry on: systematic desensitization is doing its work for you as time goes by.
- Scared of what your kids might say about sex? Well, if they ask something you’re not prepared to address right now, consider the following suggestions to keep the conversation going.
- If it’s about someone else, ask "So, when she told you that, how did it make you feel?"
- If it’s about you, alert them to the presence of a personal boundary: "Whoa! I'm not getting into my personal life just now." (accompanied by a smile)
- If it’s clearly to elicit a response from you: "Wow. I had no idea you felt that way. That is so interesting. When did you first make up your mind about that?"
Relax. Breathe. Smile. Kids of all ages just need to know you’re there — to talk with them, to help them learn, to make them feel ok about having difficult conversations.