Any close examination of the term reveals a number of the field's dirty little secrets. None are pretty.
OK then, if it's not sex addiction, what is the problem? Well, for starters, it's worse than you think.
So, you think you're a sex addict?
Most of us have experienced regret about getting into a committed relationship with someone who turned out to have been so very wrong for us.
"Why don't they teach this in school? Everybody should know this!" A reasonable question for a society that preaches the importance of family but provides little direction for success.
No, you're not too picky. We all have personal deal breakers that come up as we try to figure out how to have a great relationship and a sublimely happy future.
Just as with skin pigmentation, height, or caloric needs, when it comes to our need for sexual touch we are all somewhere on the scale of normal human diversity.
Sexual fantasies are Mother Nature's changing room in the sexual department store of life. Once inside the privacy of my own mind, I can try ideas on for size.
The intelligent management of sexuality & discovering our sexual needs is hindered by a number of variables, but they ultimately are ideas (like the seatbelt) that will catch on.
Sexual needs start in childhood and they are part of us for as long as we live. It's time we started talking about them.