Sexual Futurist™ Blog

10.02.2020 | Family & Relationships

When I ask sex offenders the question, "What would you like to get out of therapy?" the most common response over decades is, "I'd like to know how this happened."


10.02.2020 | Family & Relationships

For the last 21 years, I've worked as a sex offender counselor helping people who have been accused or convicted of sex crimes. We could all learn a lot from their stories.

09.10.2020 | Family & Relationships

Any close examination of the term reveals a number of the field's dirty little secrets. None are pretty.

08.28.2020 | Family & Relationships

OK then, if it's not sex addiction, what is the problem? Well, for starters, it's worse than you think.

08.20.2020 | Family & Relationships

So, you think you're a sex addict?


08.05.2020 | Family & Relationships

Most of us have experienced regret about getting into a committed relationship with someone who turned out to have been so very wrong for us.


07.30.2020 | Family & Relationships

"Why don't they teach this in school? Everybody should know this!" A reasonable question for a society that preaches the importance of family but provides little direction for success.


07.25.2020 | Family & Relationships

No, you're not too picky. We all have personal deal breakers that come up as we try to figure out how to have a great relationship and a sublimely happy future.

07.16.2020 | Family & Relationships

There are two specific types of variables, both deal breakers, that can keep two people from having a successful, loving relationship. Let's talk about the first one.

07.07.2020 | Family & Relationships

The “Intentional Interview” can help to increase awareness of mental health problems that could sabotage our efforts at having a great relationship.