Sexual Futurist™ Blog
When I ask sex offenders the question, "What would you like to get out of therapy?" the most common response over decades is, "I'd like to know how this happened."
For the last 21 years, I've worked as a sex offender counselor helping people who have been accused or convicted of sex crimes. We could all learn a lot from their stories.
Any close examination of the term reveals a number of the field's dirty little secrets. None are pretty.
OK then, if it's not sex addiction, what is the problem? Well, for starters, it's worse than you think.
So, you think you're a sex addict?
Most of us have experienced regret about getting into a committed relationship with someone who turned out to have been so very wrong for us.
"Why don't they teach this in school? Everybody should know this!" A reasonable question for a society that preaches the importance of family but provides little direction for success.
No, you're not too picky. We all have personal deal breakers that come up as we try to figure out how to have a great relationship and a sublimely happy future.
There are two specific types of variables, both deal breakers, that can keep two people from having a successful, loving relationship. Let's talk about the first one.