Sexual Futurist™ Blog
We're smiling, open-armed, acting friendly — while on the inside we’re scared, vulnerable, and dreading the next miserable relationship outcome. We thought we were being smart last time, so how do the really smart people do this?
Sometimes, I can tell very quickly when a relationship is not going to last. If there is contempt or resentment it becomes quite impossible to overcome, not because we aren't capable, but because it would require sacrificing a part of ourselves we don't want to change. What we need is a partner who loves us for who we are while we love them for who they are. Contempt and resentment do not come from love.
Single parents shouldn't hide their modest dating behaviors. Children can learn a lot about how to find a potential mate by learning best practices from their parents as it's happening.
What to remember when you find yourself suddenly single again.
Do you need to tell your next partner that you cheated on your last one?
Making sacrifices for one's children is healthy and normal; making yourself into a living sacrifice of sexless loneliness is neither.
If you're looking for love here's a tip: stop. Stop looking for love and start looking for life. Life is meant to be shared, if you aren't happy with your life it's irresponsible to try to share it with someone you want to care about.
"If you can't live without her then you can't be with her." - Steven Ing
Not having the right partner is an opportunity, so let's start with a different sort of inventory: What have you learned about yourself and your needs from your past failed relationships?
'Threading the needle,' so to speak, can seem daunting when you're balancing raising your children with sowing the seeds for a fulfilling romantic and sexual life. If you proactively set some ground rules it can make this far less daunting, and even far more empowering for your children.