Beware the If/Then Game of Sexual Fantasies

Does this sound familiar?  

“If he fantasizes about someone other than me,” you think to yourself, “then he must not love me.”

Or worse: He must not find me attractive, he must want to leave me, he must be a pervert — and so on.

But the bottom line to sexual fantasy is inherent to the word “fantasy”: It’s make-believe. And make-believe never hurt anyone, because — you guessed it — it’s NOT REAL.

I explain why in this article, which first appeared in the Reno Gazette-Journal.