As A Sex Therapist, I Can Tell You You’re Asking The Wrong Question About Sexual Harassment

Over the course of the last few weeks, ever since the dam of sexual harassment allegations finally broke wide open, I have repeatedly heard the following question: “When will the wave of allegations stop?”

But as a marriage and family therapist for the last 25-plus years, I can tell you that this is the wrong question. We need to stop asking when the wave of allegations will stop, and instead, we need to ask how it all began. Otherwise we’ll keep getting what we’ve gotten: abuse, followed by pain, then the public outcry, perhaps punishment — and repeat. We’ve been here before, and we know this pattern endlessly repeats itself.

But as a marriage and family therapist for the last 25-plus years, I can tell you that this is the wrong question. We need to stop asking when the wave of allegations will stop, and instead, we need to ask how it all began. Otherwise we’ll keep getting what we’ve gotten: abuse, followed by pain, then the public outcry, perhaps punishment — and repeat. We’ve been here before, and we know this pattern endlessly repeats itself.

Check out this article, first posted on HuffPost, that explains why I say this.